I asked him today if he loved his religion more than me, and he said he did. You should embrace Islam together with your boyfriend. Something about Jewish boys in their yamakas is kind of exciting I think. I believe the religion is matrilineal so you would have to convert if you wanted your children to be Jewish. Anonymous. What's the point of converting if you don't believe? Even now when I go to Church with her I do not accept communion and I do now bow down to prey and I don't recite any part of the bible. I also make the traditional food sometimes likes latkes, sufganiyot, and challah for shabbat. 21-year-old Aliyah used to be known as Alexandra. ;) I would also like to note that I said I am AGNOSTIC. Before accepting Islam, make sure to avoid heartache and regret, and don't commit until you feel that satisfying contentment of mind and soul. It is like a good form of Karate I think, or learning a musical instrument. most Jews these days marry non Jews and still go to shul and are Jewish. kathryn, you can have him girl!all men are idiots anyway. Personally, there are many aspects of Judaism and the culture which are attractive (and others not so much). Bleep is absolutely correct. We have a great relationship with both our families and still can't imagine life without the other. My parents are pretty traditional and would like me to marry within the Asian pool. 1 0. I guess my religious beliefs just mean too much to me. It's not fair to you, to them, or to anyone you bring into this world, to bring them into a family that will only truly love them if they are Jewish. Nonetheless, one’s decision to convert can be made with greater confidence and ease if grounded in a sound understanding of the religion. So in my life, I have attended Catholic Mass and Synagogue. We're raising our son Jewish, but my husband isn't interested in converting. Good luck, Paul. However, I did it for the sake of Allah (swt). In a word, everything. I noticed that ever since they've been together, she's become more religious in her own beliefs. If you are ready to convert to Islam to keep the relationship, then go ahead and do so. Thats the best advice I can give. My friend Adam will tell you what he, and many, experience while studying different faiths. We had an agreement that we would never let each others family influence our decisions when it comes to raising our kids and have stuck to it all these years. I definitely envisioned having a Jewish wife, and thought that I wanted my wife to convert, but when it came down to actual marriage time, I kind of realized it wasn't that big of a deal given my lack of religious fervor. She knew she wouldn't believe in it, and she never offically converted. I'm not into perfunctory behavior to make things superficially ok. 8. Good luck! We made it easy for you to exercise your right to vote! my boy friend is a Sikh. He would be fine if I decided that I did not convert. Remember, you get to live your life!! Islam teaches that religion is God's Word and science is God's Works. The 3rd date would be the right time to bring up these potential deal breaking questions, if it matters. I think what it comes down to is respecting each others' beliefs. Islam itself is … That is definitely something I will look into because I have been under the impression that it is a must for the children to really be considered ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hubert is misinformed: According to Jewish law the mother must be Jewish for the children that she gives birth to, to be born Jewish. Perhaps the rules need some changing, or your partner is willing to explore other options. For example, my bestfriend is with a Catholic who wants to raise his kids Catholic, but she is an atheist. I don't know if I would be willing to give up cheeseburgers, though. I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide. If the atheists and agnostics don't put their foot down against the hypocrisy of religion, we are just perpetuating the bullshit of all the rules and regulations of organized religion. I was christened as a baby, my grandma still has the puffy white gown that I wore, and we go to church on Christmas morning, but like many girls in their 20s, I wouldn’t say that religion plays a significant part in my day to day life. If you are Chinese-American you have your own history and background that is at least as rich. racial purity???? Is that a law or something? 1 minute ago Donna K. says: To Hubert: Really? One day, as he joined my school friends during a “study party” while he was visiting me at school, I looked over at his iPad to see what he was doing in order to keep himself occupied. I had a significant other that I had been in a relationship for 2.5 years when I accepted Islam. Good luck, Donna. This conversation is monumentally stupid.And if someone calls you Getty Lee it might not be a compliment. Anywhoo...here is my 2 cents. (Facial feminization surgery can help with this.) There are no issues about that.As for me, I don't have an answer as to whether or not I will do it. Changing religion for a partner, she discovered, is not as easy as she'd first thought. Reform Judaism is not the same as traditional Judaism, and if you're talking Hebrew school and getting your kids into the fantastic Jewish programs available in this city, you, the mother, has to be Jewish. I mean, if they really don't care, sure, just go ahead and ape the words and put on funny hats or whatever makes them feel that you're "one of them." The Qur'an is not a terribly long book and if you don't have a copy, here's a free e-copy in English. Or if you decided against it, why and how did that turn out?The discussion is not strictly limited to Judaism. ?roomie:  *mouth agape*                 *blinks* me:  *double stranded helices dance in head*           *considers discussing statistical model for heritability*         *remembers illogical nature of religion in general and keeps mouth shut*to this day, i have yet to hear an answer...and i'm pretty sure mendel was turning over in his grave when that conversation took placeif someone knows, please tell me....after 15 years, and many jewish friends later,  no one seems to know...roomie eventually became conservative orthodox in an attempt to compensate for her very faulty great, great, great grandmother's ova~then i knew a shiksa who converted, too...her story is a sad one, though.am i the only person who sees irony that some in the jewish faith are proponents of essentially what hitler touted???? That is definitely something I will look into because I have been under the impression that it is a must for the children to really be considered Jewish. To Henry S.:Did you make it clear to your fiance? Happiness, tranquillity and inner peace and can be achieved by converting to Islam. Let prayer be your vehicle's fuel in the journey to Him. Therefore, the Qur'an repeatedly commands Muslims to investigate, ponder, reflect, question. When my parents considered marriage neither of them asked the other to convert, though it was agreed that the children would be raised Catholic. She had no religion and no real ties to any holidays. Can you see where this is heading? Be active, be sincere, be consistent, even incessant in your prayers to God. ;), mine just wears his to hide his bald head ;p, :P Who knew that that would be one of the added perks of a yamaka? Personally, I think that it is hypocritical, not so much of the person converting, but of the family who asks that person to do so in the form of an ultimatum. You can also find about 70 different Qur'an translations for free here too. why not say "He's Jewish and I'm not and wouldn't you know it, we love each other?" I wanted to learn how to perform Salah. What does that mean? Prayer is the most powerful weapon a Muslim has, so pray fervently however you please. If we were more serious I would consider looking into the religion because for me it's about caring about the person and I am "up in the air" when it comes to religions. In Conservative and Orthodox Communities it would be frowned upon if you didn't convert before marriage. Now i think its all mixed.jewishvirtuallibrary.org…. I am not an atheist. Some see their family research Islam for themselves to learn more, and others see family members become Google scholars to find all sorts of anti-Islam propaganda written by extremists and Islamophobes. So there is definitely a very firm intent to get married. Time went on. My sibling and I were raised Catholic but we also celebrated Jewish holidays for a cultural understanding. It was on this premise that Muslims made unprecedented advances in science, biology, chemistry, astronomy, and physics during Islam's Golden Age. I made them out of clay.... Look, I don't know - I'm agnostic too.But... seems to me that a thorough investigation into Judaism might be a good thing.AT LEAST figure out what those motions mean when converting.And also be sure to figure out if they'll be family pressure to raise your kids in a stricter adherence to the Religion.Jewish teachings are amongst the oldest and in fact are very well endowed with knowledge and writings, but of course you know that much already.So, if you try it and like it - go ahead.If the whole thing makes you feel like Rosemary - maybe it just isn't right after all. Answer:Why should one convert to Islam? Islam, has always been the only acceptable religionin the sight of God. 4. Islam teaches that ultimately our salvation rests in God's hands. My boyfriend and I have just become much more serious recently. This was a reality for Adam, and is for … If by some chance my boyfriend decided he fell in love with Islam and truly wanted to convert, I would welcome him in and be there every step of the way… but I would do the same if he decided he wanted to become Buddhist, Christian, or a member of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. What's important to us is our dedication to each other as a family. In fact, I make challah every week for shabbat. Is this guy asking you to do it or telling you to do it? Twitter. This conversation is older than 2 months and has been closed to new posts. There is something very deep and quietly alluring about it, but not easy or flashy, and at times it can be antiquated and dysfunctional. Nonetheless, one’s decision to convert can be made with greater confidence and ease if grounded in a sound understanding of the religion. I have no religion so I am willing to consider it. My daughter who is now 14, declares herself as agnostic. I do all the other big holidays though. Converted to Islam from Hinduism, but girlfriend’s parents don’t accept me; About to convert to Islam, but lost my Muslim boyfriend; I am guilty of adultery but my husband doesn’t know; My wife has committed Zina during Iddah but wants me back Decide how you feel about that and go from there. We have been together for a year now and it will be much longer before an actual marriage. The best thing to do would ask Allah (swt) to guide your heart in the right direction. And second, Islam has created a system to truly unite humanity as it teaches its adherents to accept all these prophets of God. maybe i'm oversimplifying a complex matter i don't yet fully understand... yeh it's a farce. More in Converting to Islam. Dear Sister, Walaykumsalaam, Reading your post makes me feel very sad. I want to make sure that I can bring just as much as he can to the relationship. My muslim boyfriend would like me to convert to muslim and have muslim ceremony to keep his family happy. As an atheist I'd convert to save my life, or anyone elses for that matter, but I wouldn't just because someone wanted me to. I have been reading and looking into things, but I haven't had my moment of complete certainty yet. Before You Convert . One day, as he joined my school friends during a “study party” while he was visiting me at school, I looked over at his iPad to see what he was doing in order to keep himself occupied. I think I will have to see how closely he wants to follow the Jewish law in regards to marriage and conversion. Is he asking (meaning you can say no and life goes on and you get married) or expecting you to do it? We aren't exactly in a rush. Oh, and no more alcohol and no more pork. They are really useful and interesting to read. I might have turned into a deliquent if they had left me there. If you wish to convert at a Masjid then my advice would be contact the Masjid. Unlike Christianity, you cannot just "declare" yourself Jewish. I'm dating a Jew-ish guy myself. "Seriously, though, I never understood converting for a person.