We have talked and i told him why but he just doesnt understand why i cant just love her (his dog). Think about a puppy who bites you as a result of being a bit exceedingly excited. Which is why it is so incredibly important that you treat your partner with the love and respect that they deserve. I think we should both let them go and find someone who loves us for who we are and accepts our pets x. I dont agree with how the dog is treated but please realize.A DOG IS NOT A PERSON AND TO THINK THAT THE WAY A DOG IS TREATED WILL REFFECT HOW A CHILD IS TREATED IS LUDICROUS. She was way obsessed about them with a bulldog pillow, bulldog painting, bulldog mugs, bulldog statue, bulldog keychain, picture of her dead bulldog on her mantle along with his ashes, her company is named after her bulldog with its picture. Agree. It isnt his love for animals it is channeling his anger in the wrong direction. On top of that, one of the dogs has shown aggression to another dog and has mauled him very bad. I also find myself sleeping alone every night while the dog sleeps with him because if she sleeps in a kennel she whines because she has a severe case of separation anxiety from him. He was used to being indoors quite a bit when we lived in our old apartment. When I have tried to discipline him he barks and bites! In your own situation, step back and ask yourself why you are still living with him? My dogs are well-behaved and calm. And then all those hairs EVERYWHERE and a constant smell of ammonia of all the pee in the house. I consider giving them up {Ive had the pigs for over a year}, ignoring the nasty comments, or moving {but not sure I can afford another house and this home is 50% mine and Ive put money into it. } I cant help that, he was like that when he came to me from his last family. So furious! My fianc says he is not going to live another year and that was 3 years ago. Recently moved to Oklahoma and theyve had to become outside dogs. He promised me he would take her downstairs to sleep in his parents bed but tonight he just got into bed and started cuddling her and refused to take her down. Shed sit on the far left of the sofa. The dog whines to be requested to get let out or other who knows. I didnt have much issue with his dog prior to moving in either, but then once he moved in with me, the dog became super needy and dependent and took up ALL my bfs attention. During that time I was cheated on. I cant make any comments about his dog because he always defends Nd puts the dog above me. I disagree. I have confronted my husband numerous times with my feelings towards his dog. This morning I got up and fed the crying baby, as I always do, while my husband sleeps. It is nice, and I dont dislike it, but the problem is the hair. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. Even if my back was hurting and I had to use my inhaler all the time. Humans are humans and dogs are dogs. I told myself if the marriage ended, I would Watch for signs of this in another man. So, I figured if I gave him time, hed adjust to the idea of a dog and be as enthusiastic about it as he is for our other animals. What has happened that this is happening? We are also thinking about a baby, but I dont want my children to grow up in a house full with poop and pee and dog hairs. Im hurt inside as I work long hours and dont see how I will be able to spend time with them over the weekend nor I think this is humane. Dogs are not kids, gah that makes me want to vomit. Yuck! Scenario: Met and married my partner with the understanding that he cares for a dependent brother who has not worked through psychosomatic issues. I hate dogs. I think my jaw dropped when I read this because I thought I might have written it in my sleep! Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. It wasnt worth the argument because theyll never get it. We tolerate to much. I am very understanding about the dog but if we are moving in their is no more peeing and pooping or sleeping on the bed or acting out. Another option is to invest a couple hundred in an amazing dog bed (the kind with a real mattress). Society leads us to believe that if you arent way into dogs then theres something wrong with you. the ex trains him and ex tells me to leave. I absolutely LOATHE our dog. I think that you are correct! I love to have nice clean things and now, I find myself spending most of my days in the rooms where animals arent allowed. I used to think, if the dog and I were drowning, who would he save? That was a week ago and Im so pleased and relaxed the dog is finally gone but devastated that now Im doing the pregnancy alone, so can totally sympathise with you Hun, sending hugs xxx. Which isnt going to happen. We tried once I had a terrible anxiety attack that didnt go away until we gave the dog back. I guess my partner does not feel the same way. Then we decided until she was potty trained fully, theres no sleeping in our room. Its the easy way out. The one you presented is simply the most popular. Popular doesnt mean its right. I do agree with you as far as how a couple individually interacts with a pet. He says he cant get rid of the dog bc it will upset his 22 year old adult son (who doesnt love with us & wont take care of the dog either)! I would think about if I wanted someone who clearly resents your pet so much in your life. We just found out Im 6 weeks pregnant and she is so rough, she head butts me and is always running over me, almost like shes trying to knock me over. Period. My husband hates it. It quite literally is causing me mental distress having all these animals in the home. If your partner is not over their ex, you may feel their lack of commitment in your relationship. I cant watch her 24/7 to keep her from going upstairs to the kids room and getting their stuff or stealing food. He will agree to keep the dog with you by following the right tactics. If you dont agree he will eventually walk out and I domt blame a man for leaving a women who doesnt want to improve their situation but keep baying a dog its not a baby its a dog. Thats just crazy! At first she was very welcomed and loved by me and my sons. It will only get worse as time goes on and he neglects/takes you for granted. When I am at his house the dog cant let us cuddle in front of TV before interacting with aggressiveness act , he is either wants to sit in the same sofa and not a separate sofa. Glad shes old as sad as that is to say because he loves her. But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. Well I feel the same as a lot of comments here reflect. He would get more too, trust me. For some reason it finally got through to him and said he was sorry for everything that has happened and told me that at the end of the day I am more important than a dog and that he never wanted me to feel alone. I have always thought to myself that I could never get together with someone who had ever been cruel to animals, so I broke up and stayed on my own reflecting for a few days. When he isnt around she is the sweetest most mindful gal ever. And he was totally inflexible by saying that he wouldnt give up sleeping with his precious Mesa for anything. As for your other issue, this is something that will require a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. Thank you. I made myself very clear that I would not care for her dog in any manner and that if she wanted to keep it she needed to care for it. I have two daughters, 13 & 11. The horrible creature has no respect for my other animals, and it vacuums up anything it sees, including my cats toys because it is just too stupid and rangy to slow down and notice anything outside of its own drive for food. I dont vacuum as often as I should. Yet I still try and compromise because I love her genuinely. I am more upset with him that he refuses to set boundaries for her. Shes always on the furniture and in the bed (she knows she isnt suppose to because she jumps off when I walk in the room). Today dogs come to me for affection, not him, and I pet them and enjoy them. But Im not. This brings me to the current day. I still get to see him occasionally & even get to keep him when they go on vacation. Like a lot of you, anything you put in your mouth she expected a piece of it. A retired couple who offered everything I did, with the bonus of not having my husband for a daddy. She Says its either her and the baby or my dogs. And I dont at all understand the idea of not liking a particular dog. The dog is 100% dependent upon the human and knows it is. I tried to look past, including accommodating his dog in my home when he stayed weekends (until my son was home every weekend then bf near disappeared) but years later the mentality hAsnt changed. However this shit is overwhelming!!! But, I promised to give you 23 solutions. Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. The most obvious reason is the lack of training and attention. Your husband/boyfriend may want to rehome the dog because of Allergies. He has absolutely no discipline. Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. He eats my dogs food and makes sure she doesnt eat or get any water. I wish you all the best and will be sendin prayers your way! I am now sleeping on the couch. I see no solution to this and feel I must learn to accept the deep sadness in my heart for the sake of my marriage. I cant get close to him because she gets in the way and he allows it. My baby is 8 months now with asthma and gets rashes and has eczemathe doctor said to keep the dog away from the baby because the dog is part of the problem but HE WILL NOT do that even of our lives depended on it. Try daycare. In fact, thats how we ended up getting together. Reading these stories makes me want to buy all of you drinks for what youre dealing with. It is all over his work clothes because, of course, the dog rides shotgun in the vehicle. He raised her like a human child, she is ruined for life. Many people just dont like that. Here are why do dogs get separation anxiety. Our relationship is wonderful, all except for disagreements on things I love. I dont mind a quick sniff when someone walks in but she goes on non stop getting full hair on you. It was double what the house I sold cost. You can only imagine what the level of shedding can get to during hot summer months. Our kids have moved out now that they are older so since the bedrooms upstairs are free, my wife has turned one of them into the dogs bathroom. I cant imagine doing that or giving up our relationship. He said that it had been almost a year since he was able to really be affectionate towards his wife. she even calls the dog on sometimes. We love each other very much but this situation is putting a strain on our relationship, he says he doesnt understand as I used to like her at first, I genuinely did but when I realised what it was like to live with her things changed. Im tired of being restricted on where we can go because of her dog. What bothers me is that she jumps up on you all the time, she follows him around 24/7, and she whines all the Your husband/boyfriend may want to rehome the dog because it Pees or poops inside. 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